> Someone has to follow up. Someone has to risk seeming too eager. Someone has to pick a plan. Someone has to coordinate calendars. If nobody does that within a week or two, the connection fades and everyone starts over.
I sense that people think like this. But it’s absurd. I treat friendship maintenance like real work in staying interested, and finding people with your cadence so this kind of “exposing yourself as more interested” dating shenanigans doesn’t run your life.
I understand why we become victims of it when we meet the loves of our life because of hormones and what’s at stake.
But if you can’t know that your friends like you even though you haven’t spoken for a year, even if one always has to initiate the call. Then you have a level of honesty and no-nonsense to aspire to:
Just admit to them and yourself that you like them, and that availability is not perfectly symmetric, respect their ability and interest to reply, and rejoice when it matches for whatever brief periods. There is no loss if it doesn’t work out.
I think perhaps I should position my idea a bit neutrally.
I completely agree with you that this is an absurd way of thinking, and people do think like that. Especially, this sort of thinking is more prevalent during the earlier stages of a relationship; and it leads to things fizzling out.
I should be clear about the niche I'm targeting. I'm targeting people who have just moved into a new city and who don't know anyone. This is quite common in big cities like New York or San Francisco, where you have a large number of transplants.
Also, the goal is not to have an AI forever. It's only there for the initial phases of a relationship. The AI just acts like a facilitator.
And this AI won't magically solve all your problems. You still have to go out there and do the work. It's just a platform that intelligently books events for you so that you meet you liked again.
> Someone has to follow up. Someone has to risk seeming too eager. Someone has to pick a plan. Someone has to coordinate calendars. If nobody does that within a week or two, the connection fades and everyone starts over.
I sense that people think like this. But it’s absurd. I treat friendship maintenance like real work in staying interested, and finding people with your cadence so this kind of “exposing yourself as more interested” dating shenanigans doesn’t run your life.
I understand why we become victims of it when we meet the loves of our life because of hormones and what’s at stake.
But if you can’t know that your friends like you even though you haven’t spoken for a year, even if one always has to initiate the call. Then you have a level of honesty and no-nonsense to aspire to:
Just admit to them and yourself that you like them, and that availability is not perfectly symmetric, respect their ability and interest to reply, and rejoice when it matches for whatever brief periods. There is no loss if it doesn’t work out.
I think perhaps I should position my idea a bit neutrally.
I completely agree with you that this is an absurd way of thinking, and people do think like that. Especially, this sort of thinking is more prevalent during the earlier stages of a relationship; and it leads to things fizzling out.
I should be clear about the niche I'm targeting. I'm targeting people who have just moved into a new city and who don't know anyone. This is quite common in big cities like New York or San Francisco, where you have a large number of transplants.
Also, the goal is not to have an AI forever. It's only there for the initial phases of a relationship. The AI just acts like a facilitator.
And this AI won't magically solve all your problems. You still have to go out there and do the work. It's just a platform that intelligently books events for you so that you meet you liked again.
yeah, surely the reason why adult friendships have declined since before technology is that they had AI before and now they... wait.
> Curious how people here have seen adult friendships actually form after the first meeting.
you know, by... asking to hang out.
this is the craziest "using a computer to `solve` something that has nothing to do with computers" problem I've seen on here in a minute.
This sounds terrible. I'm sure you'll get loads of funding.